Very thought-provoking article from Kate Carraway over at Jezebel.
"There’s a crucial difference between a straight slut and a queer slut, and it’s the shame factor. But it’s not shame in the way you might think.
Presumably, queer women who are cool with calling themselves a “slut” base their queer-sluthood on number of partners -– such is the case in Jaclyn Friedman’s recent heat-scoring piece "My Sluthood, Myself," in which Friedman assesses her straight-slutting on the same terms she does her casual sex with women -– in her estimation, it all adds up to one big slutty statistic. But I’d argue that when it comes to gauging one’s overall sluttiness, volume of sex is secondary to what those partners are packing.” […continued]
Carraway makes a very interesting (and mostly true) point here, and a point that isn’t what most people would jump to, i imagine, when thinking about this topic. She suggests that slut-shaming is a mechanism perpetuated by (hetero) women, not men. Not in an apologists for patriarchy way, of course—she’s not writing in a vacuum or assuming we live in one hence removing phallocratic influence from the table—just in a “hey, lookit” way.